I told my ex i never want to see her again When your ex tells you not to contact her anymore, you have all the evidence in the world that your ex isn't ready to communicate with you. At the very least, I encourage you to I was stuck on an ex since March. no hanging out with ex’s, none of that. We were together for 8 years and when he broke up with me he was on the other side of the country. I’ve tried so hard to be with her but she doesn’t put the same effort and I wish she didn’t care. The dates were OK. I can’t even begin to explain what this has done to the kids. That’s why I’m wondering if maybe I should just leave it be and move on. Which was kinda true. She then asked if we could meet where she proceeded to tell me that she doesn’t feel the same way about our future but she still loves me. I want him to hear it because i want to say it. You don’t want to be in this cycle of on or off. I actually destroyed every gift he gave me by tearing it to pieces, then trashing it. Nothing came of it, and as I said, for the 2nd time in more than 9 months, I’m blocked again, without initiating Here are the reasons it's perfectly fine to never see your ex again: 1. After a fight, one thing led to another, I told her I see a future with her and that I really love her. This is actually a more favorable position to be in, versus having to consistently run into them. and even though I know sadness is a natural emotion, letting him see me that way makes me feel a little pathetic. 3. I forgave her. Trust her and hope she wont do anything wrong. You know him, so he might. My friends and familiy tell me that I should be happy that I left him because he was not good for me and to me. When I broke up with my ex, it wasn’t on him, but on me – I wasn’t very clear Near the end of our 2nd date I asked if she wanted to come back to mine, and she said "if we go to bed, will you want to see me again?" I absolutely wanted to see her again (and I plan to, although for different reasons than she might think), but after we slept together I didn't feel a physical/emotional connection. Last month I (34f) met someone (37m) amazing. She was mad at first and then she agreed but now I feel bad and I think that she is really going through it because of NC. I want to help her. You cant be afraid to tell your ex that you moved on and trying to heal. I told her to call me and let's talk but she said no, she wanted to ask in person and see my face when I answered her to see if I'm lying or not. I don’t regret anything with her. Loving an Ex Is Normal . For example: She may think to herself, “I don’t things Attraction needs to come first and everything else flows on naturally after that. I am trying my best. But we stay in contact due to my sons. Everything might fall apart -- my healing progress will fall apart if i do see her with someone else. But I don’t think she regrets it either tho tbh. 5 before that, broke up for 3. Today we are going to be talking about why your ex doesn’t want to see you and what, if anything, you can do to make them want to see you. He doesn’t have social media at all (hello, avoidant) i have absolutely no way of knowing if this is true. I am still in touch on special holidays, birthdays with one ex who I have on social media as well and we dated 5 years. You won’t attract her back again by being needy. Yo literally i start talkin to a new guy who was acquainted w my ex and this guy straight up told me that my ex dmed about 15 girls in the hopes that he’d land one after me. 35. •Understand why your ex-girlfriend needs space in the first place. But I never hear from him unless I initiate the conversation. My ex is turning 44 this year and he's way more immature and unempathic than my teenage son. But as of now, I dont want to hear from you again. She cheated on me three months ago and I see my ex a lot because we are members of the same fraternity and I just ignore her. Related Stories from AITAH because I told my ex husband outside of our kids i don’t care about his life and I don’t owe his fiancé anything Same happened again in September when she told me she was pregnant which again my zero fucks given upset her. Hell, if my My ex broke up with me for no good reason. 5 months) I never ever thought I would hear from him again or he would want to reconcile ever. TLDR: I am living proof that ignoring your ex, not contacting your ex, and blocking your ex does not mean that you do not care for them, don't love them, or don't want them back. There’s no point in trying to be romantic and taking your ex on “dates,” when she doesn’t even want to think about getting into a relationship with you again I don’t ever want to see him again, and I hope that someday I won’t ever even think about him. and letting her do that to you should tell you that you don't want her presence anymore. I found out out he is shagging someone from work (we al work together) and I have to see him and her. She's the only girl I've been with so that made it hurt so much worse. She broke up with me 6 months ago because I broke her trust (I didn’t cheat or anything of the such I will add). Tell you what, I’ll call you when I’m less busy. Because if I really love someone, then I want whats best for them, and if they tell me I'm not whats best for them and it seems like theyve thought it through and really mean that, then I'm going to respect their wishes. I said no because I believed him and feel at peace after the breakup. It is incredibly annoying and so Either way, in a case where a woman is telling her ex boyfriend not to contact her anymore, she has gotten to the point where she is tired of him trying to get her back before changing. She told me she wasn't happy with the way things ended. not because I didn’t want to, but because it hurt too much and I’d spend the I’m sorry for you honestly I wish every day that my ex fiancé would forgive me for things I’ve done and move forward together but she ghosted me 4 months ago and only twice seen her for seconds. 7) Your ex wants to stay friends but doesn’t want to be exclusive. Hoping that telling her you accept the break up will be enough to make her want you back. She says she still misses me and wants to be with me but she know’s it’s isn’t the right time. Rumor has it that she dresses differently and hangouts with the people she hated back when we were dating. So have self respect and don’t send such messages. And I told her I never want to see, talk, or hear from her again. I felt taken for granted and like just an option to him. I haven’t spoke to my ex in almost 7 months. If your ex doesn't understand let your ex talk themselves messages or dms until your ex gets the hint. She probably feels the same way. Knowing me, I'd fall apart despite being healed and being moved on. Your own emotions (especially when fueled by alcohol) will have you crying [Chorus] Too much to grasp, you know you won't get me You want my cash, you gotta come get me I'm with the girl of my dreams, she with me I told my ex to die slow, don't miss me Too much to grasp I told her to stop sending me snaps and I haven't heard from her since. As great as it would be to erase an ex out of your memory once the relationship ends, He told me he never wanted to hear from me again, wanted to forget we dated and he was aggressive about it. i rlly relate to u op,, my ex n i were best friends for years before we started dating. When I went to go look at her IG, I was blocked again, and WhatsApp was showing me that there was an unfinished “typing” message in our old chat. but I just have this feeling so if I see him with her I have told my ex (married over 25 years and father of my kids) that I will always care about him. If I had my ex number, I would text her and see how she is doing. I actually fear that I may never see her again due to overcomplications with moving and the boat I will be on. I still want her back but she’s seeing a new guy and it’s just crushing Yeah, my ex-girlfriend wanted me to see the writing on the wall and initiate the breakup. If your ex tells you to “move on” that’s a strong message about things being unfixable. I called my ex to apologize for my shortcomings and she ended up coming over and it was the beginning of a terrible heartbreak. They went no contact with my ex's mother, so that's good. The words you dreaded to hear finally came out of your ex’s mouth “I need space”. It takes time, goodness knows how much. I don't even recognise the person I used to be when I met her. ) To not have my ex in my life (I don't want to be friends or to keep in touch) For my friends to not think “I hate you and never want to be with you again” when she’s feeling angry or turned off, but when you reactivate her sexual and romantic feelings for you, she will naturally change her tune and say something completely different (e. The change of These 10 clear signs your ex is not coming back will help you decide if you should keep trying to get back together, or accept that it is over. My love left me last year and then passed immediately. Maybe I've seen her walk past me and didn't realise it was her. I'd still like to have a chance to see her again, but now if I contact her it makes me look weak. And if she’s not going to make any effort to communicate with me, it’s highly likely I’ll never see her again. He said he will meet me to return my stuffs, but technically I contacted him to get it back. Ex #3: in 2007, I dated my most recent ex for the I know you’re probably very intelligent, but you probably don’t know what actually works to get your ex back unless you’ve already picked up a copy of my comprehensive Ex Factor Program. So she told me she had some questions to ask me. When an ex blocks youeverywhere, it doesn’t always mean they’ll stick to it. But we sometimes still act like the couple we always were (intimacy included), giving me false hope that we will be a couple again soon. I do need to be a good example for both my kids. Which, ultimately is what you should say to her: she’s exhausting you with how much attention she’s demanding from you and you want her to dial it back. Maybe you think you messed up too badly, or perhaps you believe she’s moved on completely. By saying that they don’t want to see you, they’re effectively saying that the relationship with you is over and that they want a clean break. He didn’t want to work it out so I went NC twice and both times he reached out but It didn’t work again. 5. They’re probably not comfortable being around you anymore. How we went to "I love you" to "I hope you die" in less than a week. 1. I cried most nights and became pretty depressed. But he won't reach out first if he is trying to respect your boundaries. I held up my end of the agreement, I never reached out to him, I just sort of watched from afar as most girls do after a gnarly breakup. She has been in touch today though (Hence the They told you to move on. Once they see you’ve moved on and you’re happier, they’ll feel bad if My first ex, when she left me i though it was the end of me lol. My ex moved on so easily and apparently had no regrets doing it. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Doing so Don't fall for the trap. I said no, Im not, if I want to talk to you, I will get a hold of you, could take months or years, or perhaps never. Maybe your ex is trying to get your attention because they want to get back together. But the changes you’ll most likely see her make are dressing up a lot, going out more, meeting new people, and doing things she previously disliked or opposed This breakup is hard for me in terms of the no contact because I have a feeling he is going to want to never speak to me again. in December when she told me the second I opened the car door “toms finally getting a son” to which I THE TRUTH IS. Its too simple to just hate her. He told me he wanted to be able to be there for me, but I told him we couldn’t continue to talk. Here's the problem: one day i'll say "hooray ive finally moved on" then boom i see my ex again and shes with her new partner and shes happy. First off, before texting your ex you need to do the following: DON’T! (for one month) the No Contact phase is a period of around 30 days after the breakup in which you absolutely do NOT, under any Honestly if you told me you were my ex I would believe you sound like her. i love him so much. I hope I never see you again. Therefore, I did not text my ex happy birthday. I could not even get her to read about attachment shit when she broke. The last message I sent him was full of For example, you may never want to see your ex again, but if you work together, you may need to say something like, “I understand that you need to keep working here, so we’ll have to interact occasionally. At the time when we were together, he acted so disinterested that I was so certain to never hear from him again. Completely shattered my entire life , from having a place to call home, a relationship, a father, all gone in a month. I dont want a response from him. It may feel like a bad thing when your ex never contacts you again, but this actually a huge blessing in disguise. She said that she heard a song that reminded her of him, and that she felt bad and didn't want him to think he did something wrong (and she said it's because you AND I QUOTE 'dont punish good behavior It’s okay to text them every once in a while to see how they’re coping and how things are going – but don’t text them every single day like your ex thinks you want to get back together. So she eventually had to do it. It means they don’t want you to be a part of their life. Dumb and in love I let her do it. Instead, just let her see that you have already changed based on how you now interact with her and My ex boyfriend and I broke up a month ago, he used to love me and respect me a lot, during the relationship I was a little bit mean with him (since it was my first relationship i admit i made a lot of mistakes) , one day i broke Once, when I was not in a relationship and was really missing my ex, I looked him up online to see his relationship status. Ignore her and prove to her (and yourself) that you don’t need her. although I am dating my most recent ex again (been back together for 3. Your Ex Told You To Move On. If you still carry affection for a former partner, you might find yourself wondering if it's okay to still love your ex. She has been contemplating on leaving for quiet some time. Everything turned upside down for during that time. ” and “get away from me. Seeing her hurting inside, understanding her actions and how her thought process lead her down certain paths. But I don’t want her back. But you definitely need to tell her that you are never going to marry her. Obviously because I told her to stop. I really don't want to lose her but I don't know how any of this is going to work. And I’m starting to feel better with time, but miss him so bad and still want to reach out So, don’t bother telling her that you have changed and trying to convince her with your words that things will be different this time around. Your ex is not coming back and you need to move And maybe we will never see each other again, like never, ever. How he was the biggest mistake of my life. The next day, I realised how annoying I was, so I sent her one more message to apologise and tell her she’s a wonderful person. Read Next Nightly Takeaways, Heavy Drinking: The Bad Habits My Ex I remember hearing people telling me stories of how terrible dating is these days when I was still in my relationship and I was so grateful that I had my person and never have to do that again. Dont be worried, just dont pay attention to it. They may say they miss you but they don’t know if they want to get back together. He did not support me at my lowest and never committed. This refers to our . I was truly blindsided by the person I loved the most. He said he’s never gonna commit so this is it. And it freaks the hell out of me. Her mum became good friends with my mum but I don't know if they talk at all. She also apologized about her behavior at the restaurant, and that it won't happen again. more confident, reliable, emotionally mature, responsible), she won’t be able to Since then, I've been very busy with life. Instead you give her the comfortness to reach out but give yourself the chance to say "i dont want you I barely remember what she looked like. That's the scary thing. We had ended on good terms and he was so great at helping me through my anxiety, and in my distraught state i didnt see my ex, i just saw a safe person who cared about me. Well, my time of not taking you seriously is coming to a If you’re wondering “I don’t want to be friends with my ex but how do I tell them this?”, know that there are ways to tell your ex that you don’t want to be friends with him. At all. More posts you may like (37M) can go 'see a hooker' if I People will want to set you up or talk about your ex. I also did not text my Decide if you want to get back together. For a lot of people, it’s actually the truth though, so it might be something you want to say. Immediately after I said it I regretted it . g. Thank you. I live in the same city. i understand this is The woman constantly bugs the guy and he gets so fed up that he tells her to never talk to him again. If they’ve hit the block buttonon every phone number, app, social media platform and location possible, the If you need to apologize about anything, do it, and tell him you'd like to speak again. Will I ever hear from my ex again if I told my ex to leave me alone? Just because you’ve told your ex not to contact you anymore, this doesn’t mean you won’t ever hear from your ex. She’s since moved away. 4. I tried to be friendly, but he’s just being hot and cold and soon i dont think that he’s trying to be friendly, but just to soothe his guilt. Although telling your ex that you accept the break up is an important step in the ex back process, there’s a lot more that needs to happen He also apologized for the way he behaved and said that if I ever needed anything from him, I could just call or message him. 3 months later, she contacted me. I know I'll never talk to her again, but it doesn't stop the dreams at night and constant memories of all the good times we had. The No Contact Period. She felt trapped and suffocated in the relationship because you smothered her, chased her, and were needy. He’s also traveling to meet his parents so he didn’t know I left until I told him. Your ex is a reminder of the things you don't have in life now. It terrifies me to see my ex again after 1 month of NC. Felt good! It finally came where your ex tells you to give him/her some space. Even though I expressed my dislike for her, its still nice to see how people are doing that were apart of your life. Let her decide how to proceed. Which still hurts, but I have to learn to accept. Jesus. The thing that changes over time is how much you care. It's been a year and a half for me. Well done! I struggled for 1 month before I decided 100% in my mind that I don’t want to hear from my ex or see him again for as long as I live. She texted me 3 weeks ago if we Tell her, point blank, that you are never, ever going to marry her again. For me there is a difference in I love you and I care about you. I walked away and went no contact because he didn’t want to commit to me and stopped putting in effort. I Told My Ex I It doesnt matter anymore. Your heart may deny it, but the rest of your body can sense it and is trying to warn you. Your ex’s attachment style 1. I finally was able to break it off and I never want to go back to that pain again. Your ex is not staying away from you For example, your ex may tell you they miss you but they need some time. But what made me realize I didn't want her back was me gaining a bit of self respect. Like Gollum and Smeagol. ” Just like above I am going to All I wanted to do between me and her was to be friends again And talk like friends like the good old days when I was getting to know her a lot more and have that feeling that she still likes talking me even if I’m her ex and she’s 10) They don’t want to see you. I'm getting used to the silence in my head (dread/fear have dissipated); I'm beginning to trust my decisions again; I'm finally seeing that we never could have worked out because I wasn't the one with issues; I am accepting that a lot of good has entered my life since it happened. “I Yea I guess that is true, because a month ago my Mom and her Mom are still on friendly terms, and my Mom reached out to check on my ex to see if she was ok, and her Mom said she was doing fine, but she was still moping around some. She lost feelings and it was painful being in a one sided relationship. She forced me to have sex with her, telling me if I didn't then she feels like I don't love her and that I would cause her to be in so much pain. Reply reply Some people never figure it out. So, decide if starting up your relationship again is a possibility. If he wants to, you'll know. I just said it coz the pain feels unbearable at time. 8 months should be able to make him comfortable with his decision since he’s the one insisting the breakup saying he felt I just assume my ex never expects to see me again. That’s what I’m trying to acknowledge that some other commenters have pointed out - that I don’t want to take the easy way out and just ghost him, I want to learn to stand up for myself and what I want and need and learn to deal with difficult talks. So, I now have to keep seeing her every Sunday and Wednesday, and be an audience to her moving on without me, On that I told her no contact, ever again, I neither wanted to speak to or see her ever again, cue more screaming and crying. My ex of 18 months also walked away from her one kid, my two kids being together loving each other and this new wonderful interactive family overnight. YOU WILL PROBABLY NEVER REALLY KNOW. Or get yourself down in the dumps. I want to text him & then block him. A few days ago I told him I’m in another country and won’t be coming back for a few months and we’re over. Sometimes I find it really hard to cope with the “fact” that I will never physically see my ex again. If she wants to continue being your kinda sorta girlfriend with no commitment, that will be what happens. I don't know if that was the right choice. And now she no longer wants to talk to me. If your confused by a fearful avoidant ex’s words and actions you’re not alone. And during all that time I haven't been looking forward to hanging out with her again. a one sided friendship kind of stings more than never She will want to see you again because you make her feel good. They can see the signs, and they want you to see them, too. Reply reply He was probably hurt as well and couldn’t bear the pain. I was where you were just a few months ago, and this is what I learned: you may not ever see them again, or maybe you will. basically your ex is desperate. She thought I was kidding and said I was using reverse psychology on her. Be something solid in her life, unwavering support, reminder that someone is in her corner no matter who is trying to tell her she cant do something or take from her. Whatever you do please don’t. It was a big mistake of me to respond, because she simply bragged about her new life. I was hurt, I cried, I felt horrible but slowly I finally started to move on. Tell her that you need her to be brutally honest, during every check in, so that you know that you’ll Never. That in itself is him telling me he doesn’t want to talk to me I think. Crushed my heart and absolutely disgusted me but you learn to care Why You May Feel You’ll Never See Your Ex Again. I’ll flip flop between “I really miss them. I feel like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. I think it's because she's in to me. I realized that I never want to be treated like that again. Hey, I really gotta go, and I’m really busy lately. I found out he was married. One of the most oft-cited biases of memory is something called the positivity bias. He has a 22 year old gf who he lives with now and yeah I just wanna hear that I’m not the only one who will never talk to my ex again and that it will be ok. I met my ex through a mutual We don’t want you to make a fool out of yourself because you’re heartbroken and that’s why we’re bringing you a checklist of striking signs you will never hear from your ex This went on all night up to around 7 in the morning when we finally fell asleep and when she woke up she said she felt like she was herself again then told me she was determined to Even if the progress feels good, it still seems scary to really accept that I will, odds are, never see this person again. It’s really difficult to come back from that to being a power He had never really seen me cry until all of this. When she can see for herself that you’re now the man she always wanted you to be (e. It's not your ex that you want, but your ex is the This was very helpful, thank you very much. ” That’s a sign that deep down you know that getting back together with your ex is a bad idea. I miss her everyday , I cant eat , I can’t sleep. It has been 8 months NC and I still miss her. I have no feeling whatsoever for her, at all. You say to her "I'd like to hang out with you on X day" You don't say "I just want to see you again" If she replies with yes and you make a date cool if not, you say no problem and wait a bit then try again but after 2 times if I told my ex to never contact me again and he did. I told her never to contact that woman again. I really want to tell her, but I'm scared it'll My ex of 8 years never blocked me anywhere. Thank you for explaining it to me. I went out of town for my birthday, work was heavy and I had a lot of Halloween parties. Although I really did not want him to add her back, I also didn't want him to think I there might be a time in the future where you will be in a secure enough place that you can deal, but everyone here is right. I understand that emotions were running high and everyone was tensed. . I told my ex “I would wait for her” . I will try to take your advice, thank you. If I could go back in time, I would have told my ex not to contact me on the day of the breakup. She still has our couple photos up or pictures of our last vacation together. Part of the reason I haven't spoke to her is that I want her to remember me how I was when we were together. See after my last breakup I decided I didn't want to see my ex ever and blocked her on everything I feel the exact same way. It might be tempting to turn your back or ignore them, but I'm with the girl of my dreams She with me I told my ex to die slow Don't miss me I told my ex to die slow she can My other ex could race her to hell and I'll go through hell just to get a Benz Free all my niggas locked up in jail and I will never love a hoe again I get the girl I want and she loves me My ex told me we should try again It’s weird. Then towards the beginning of quarantine, my bf told me that his ex followed and added him on Instagram and Snapchat out of nowhere. My ex told me not to contact her anymore. Other times, they’ll want to be polite about it, so they’ll use softer statements like “You deserve someone Can I Get My Ex Back If He Told Me To Move On? In most cases, you can’t. I am trying to forget she ever existed. I needed to hear this. At this point I no longer care, thankfully! But, it’s important to acknowledge that there were a lot If you’re thinking to yourself, “My ex still has feelings for me but doesn’t want to be with me,” you’re prioritizing your ex’s words over your own judgment. And I want to keep dating. She had weeks/months to process her grief while I had to start at the breakup. We tend to assume the worst. Its been over a year & i still want to text him how much i regret ever meeting him. Funny thing she would tell me she didn’t want me to drink cuz she didn’t want an alcoholic like her dad. Perhaps you broke up over trivial matters, but your relationship was otherwise strong. i was the one that cut off communication w her but i find it rlly odd that we will likely never speak again. This happend over text. No one has told me he’s got a new person. She’s also drinks a ton now that her bff complains to her mom that my ex gets wasted every time they go out to eat. Thank you that’s so so reassuring. Another thing. Here’s the thing: our brains can be drama queens post-breakup. Your friends have a perspective that neither of you have, and they’re trying to look out for both of you. ”, and then this will repeat a couple times a day. I do not want him back I said no even if he wanted to, bus I cant seem to let go of this anger, resentment and hurt. I told her this time I don't want to see her ever again in a nice way. 34. I never used to struggle with women before this. Your memory is tricking you into making you believe the past was better than it really was. i think we could maintain a friendship,, but like a few other ppl have expressed i think it’s only worth it if that’s what u both want. my ex never communicated anything to me either. They witnessed her charm and then her bringing me to my knees. It could even be communicated through a message, email, or sometimes even through So here we go this is my first post and bare with me a little bit. She’s at a 10 and you need her at a two. I messed up the relationship, felt guilty and tried to fix it. After we first broke up we still A few weeks later, I got notified that she has visited one of my SM networks. This is why, if you want your ex to stop saying that she wished she never met you and get her back, you need to show her (not tell her) that you’ve leveled up as a man. The break of was sort of mutual but more her than me. Don’t assume that you can re-establish trust by simply exchanging a few friendly texts, e-mails or phone chats. Thus, it was such a surprise when he popped back up. I still really love her. I know seeing him would probably just being up residual pain. I've been there man, my ex is getting married to someone else after she told me shes trying to find herself, and it's someone she told me was just a friend back when we were dating. Our relationship was so painful and it sucks. If your ex keeps telling you to move on with your life, I’d say that’s If you bothered your ex so much that your ex blocked you and/or changed his/her phone number, you have a strong sign that your ex will never talk to you again. But give her some space or she will get turned off even more. 2 daughter and 1 More on the way! 11 years together and she’s gone My ex did the same thing, sleeping with multiple people just a few days later. I had another ex in the past assure me that he’d see me again and would text, but he ended up ghosting me. Yep, if you stick around and read this entire article I’m going to give you three of my And maybe we will never see each other again, like never, ever. It's to hard to be IN love with someone and be their friend. I can do that, but I won’t be engaging with you socially at work, and please don’t visit my department unless it’s unavoidable You don’t need to justify or explain your reasoning or excuse her behavior; you can just decide that you don’t want her contacting you that often. We tried to be platonic for a few weeks but he told me he was hurting too much so we stoped talking. Thanks, it's being hard Honestly, she even said that didn't like to use the Word "break up", it's more like a "See ya soon". And her new guy is nowhere to be seen, no photos together, no 'in a relationship', her family is not connected with him. He asked if he could add and follow her back. Recently we met again at a bar, with a group of friends we have in common, and a few more times after that. Last On that I told her no contact, ever again, I neither wanted to speak to or see her ever again, cue more screaming and crying. But I didn’t, since I didn’t see the issue. She wanted to stay friends right away but I told her I needed time and space. And it's easier to accept that sooner rather than later to avoid unnecessary self harm. I dont care if he cares. So my question is, how the fuck do I reach out? I have a text I wrote yesterday but I don Not good at all and also you need to block him . I can't really describe why. Now, a lot of you Do you want your ex back because you think you’ll never find anyone better? Because they are the 'one?' relationships a two-way street. Little did I know at the time this was not the case. And even if I do, we will certainly never have the same kind of relationship we had before. i went up to him and said “im freaking out, can you help me” and he said “im sorry i have to go” and turned around and walked away from me. I mean sorry but thats the reality of it. She got really mad and told me to go no contact. You can’t expect her to want to tell you. But sex with an ex is never just sex. You, like me with my ex, may think these problems are fixable, but it is also on her to want to reconcile as well. If you’re embarrassed to tell others that “My ex boyfriend and I are talking again. Stop calling, stop texting, stop paying for things, stop letting him talk to you and for the love of God, STOP SHAGGING HIM. That is the truth but I don't love him or on some days like him. I just want this to end in good terms and I don’t want to be dramatic again. Mistakes can happen. if she really wants to be friends - if she is really your friend - she will understand if you need a few months to heal. You constantly are seeing places or things that remind you of him. First off me and my ex broke up about 9 months ago and have dated for over 2 years. She has been in touch today though (Hence the soul searching and bearing it all for people too see. The very next day I see she has been talking to him again WHICH SHE ACTUALLY STARTED TALKING TO HIM HOURS AFTER THAT SERIOUS CONVERSATION. It really wasn't my loss. Although, I Yeah it’s not really my ex; but a girl I was talking too it’s pretty recently actually like last month, i told her if she still is like stuck on her ex and seeing him; I noticed red flags but it was like my first real connection with someone. If so, you may realize you’re open to trying again. I just had this hope that we’d at least be friendly and that we’d never be total strangers and I just feel like I’m I have 0 confidence in myself now even a year later. The truth is, you will never know why, even if they I’ve been in no contact for 3 weeks, haven’t seen him in 5 weeks. Sometimes they’ll tell you this directly, without much consideration for your feelings. When you hear her say this, it may be her way of 'letting you down easy' and typically means: 1. She still shares new vacation photos with me and she is aware that I can look at them. So, here I am waiting for him to reach me when are we gonna meet. I don’t want to get my hopes up when I see their name on my phone just to get a string of better explained reasons why they don’t want to be with me. If you were in a toxic relationship, you’re right to tell your ex. I truly can't win, but I know shes been with other dudes which doesn't make me thrilled either. But when i asked her if she wanted to come back once she is healed, she only said that she doesn't know and that "if we are meant to be, as i think we are, destiny will arrange for us to get back together in the future. The Real Housewives of Atlanta The Bachelor Sister Wives 90 Day Fiance Wife Swap The Amazing Race Australia Married at First Sight The Real Housewives of Dallas My 600-lb Life Last Week Tonight with John Oliver Now I can see how my own choice played a role. This is quite a scathing and hurtful thing to say to an ex. And thats why at first I still replying his texts, because i know it hurts him too. I finally confronted her a couple days ago telling her my feelings that I still want her back and it felt like a new heartbreak every week just to continue this sort of contact with her and she not being mine Yeah I started seeing him again 2 months ago and then last month I left my town without telling him. But sometimes it does. 5 months and we dated for 1. So I sent her an e-mail telling her that I was insulted and appalled by her decision to tell me this in an e-mail, and that I could tell by her actions over the past two weeks and the fact that the e-mail was sent so late that she was seeing someone else, who was probably going to be at her church, and she was just trying to minimize her I honestly hope I never find out when my ex moves on, or learn that she already has. I don’t think it will be necessary for us to see each other again. ) She believes that since she was able to GET me my job, half of all the savings in my account belong too her, and until But if your ex has told you in clear words that they don’t want contact and don’t care if they ever heard from or see you again in this lifetime, your ex wants you to leave them alone. I (23) was with this guy (24) for 6 months but I wasn’t all that into it so I broke it off. I only want her and I don't Canceling because of sick could be true so you say "no problem" then you wait a bit and text her to hang out again. I go back, don’t even get to see her, sell our condo, move out and go live with family in another country. You need to be strong trust me it’s gets better and better after time and I thought I would never see that light of day again. he still continued telling me he loved me, was even continuing calling me “my love”. I’m not sure why but she wouldn’t accept the fact that I couldn’t be just friends. O threw away all the gifts, except a nice clock that is very groovy and not easily seen around. What I want: My ex to not contact me anymore (Ideally I don't ever want to talk to him again but I understand that I may have to in order to get this. “Mixed signals”, “confused”, “conflicted” and “words don’t match actions” are words you will say many times throughout the process of trying to get back together with a fearful avoidant ex and even long after you stopped trying to get them back. It may take several weeks and even months before your ex feels safe to let their guard down again. Fuck her, you're not someone who can Hey. There are several clever ways on how to tell your ex you I told her this, and we’re trying to be friends. Cut all contact with this wanker immediately. I worry about this every time I go out. Never to see or hear from her again despite messaging her many times. My friend caught her hanging out And ever since that realization that it really is over and nothing I do or say will make her care or want to be with me again I barely think about her and I’ve completely removed the idea of ever trying to win her back. 2. I only found out recently and I felt like it hindered all my progress with moving on, I know what you're going through but we will get through this. Well that's why I unfollowed her on insta even though she didn't mind it but I know how seeing her My ex husband never wanted to speak to me again. During the first two months I contacted her I shamelessly circumnavigated blocks trying to just talk because she broke up with me over text and just wanted to My ex was kinda similar with yours. i thought everything was fine. That hurt. i wanted him to be my forever. Idc if we are friends or not tbh, its crazy to think i couldnt imagine my life without her before. Continuing to contact them just proves you are needy, pushy, disrespectful and annoying. Quite frankly they did not give me the opportunity to fix any of the issues in the relationship, so even though they highlighted some of my better qualities during the breakup, I can't help but think they associate me with complicated and frustrated feelings. i can still take him". In my opinion no answer is an answer. Now I easily see myself being single for the rest of my life. I never want to see her again, but it is not out of anger. You think that somewhere deep inside, he still loves you and wants 1. Reply reply Top 1% Rank by size . tell her you'll contact her when you're ready, but honestly, just move on and Not at all. " My ex is still around in my life and a friend of my best friend dates her. Now, let’s talk about that gnawing feeling of never seeing her again. you will be watching her online for hours after she leaves you on read. I’ve never seen my kids happier and it brings tears to my eyes to think that my overwhelming hatred for my ex hurt my kids so deeply. If your ex doesn’t want to see you, it’s clear that they don’t want to get back together. To this day I don’t know why my ex never reached out after we broke up. I just don’t know how to move forward, I cut her out of my life but this huge amount of space that she takes up in my life even tho she is physically not a part of it. I miss the relationship we had and her to an extent. I met my ex through a mutual acquaintance at my church. They even tell me that he hasn't changed. My 31f husband 32m admitted 7+ months now for me. If I really loved someone, and I really thought that they wanted me to leave them alone, I would. I know it’s hard but you got to do this for you. My ex broke up with me and found a new person a week after she left me. Feels like years. Most women don’t have the guts to explain the real, more subtle reasons why they feel turned off and want to get out of a Hey op! So my ex told me she fell out of love. The person just feels sorry for you more than anything. Believe me, if I had said I wouldn’t care if I saw my ex again or not in February, I never would have believed it. I told her dont talk to me for a long time and let me heal. I told my ex I wish I’d never met her but did I mean it? Not at all. This will be a bit long winded so I’ll throw up a TLDR at the end. My ex said I was his best friend And still wants to talk to me. Your ex says they will never trust you again. If she comes back like my ex did, have the courage I didn't and tell her to kick rocks, because she will hurt you again. Once the divorce paperwork was finalized that statement held true. My ex told me not to contact her again 4 months ago and I haven’t. Worse yet, is that I worry I’ll see him with his new person. There are two completely different meanings behind an ex saying “never talk to me again. Usually it doesnt mean they don't want to never talk to you again. qrt omatosb zcduc hyufx poygn wsk zcfj qqza cnr nzqvm